Do you feel that you are walking on eggs in relationships? Are you fearful of abandonment? Constantly trying to please others or read their unspoken messages? Are you afraid to assert yourself? Do you base your self esteem on how others see you or how you perceive that they see you? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits and often are intruded on by others? Do you fear disappointing people? Were you raised in a family where your boundaries were consistently violated and your voice was shut down? Do you feel helpless at times and filled with guilt and shame? All of the above can be effects of enmeshment and are blocks to forming healthy “fully alive relationships” ..but there is help, hope and healing on the way!

THIS CERTAINLY HAS BEEN A CHALLENGING TIME FOR EVERYONE AS THE PANDEMIC HAS CHANGED SO MANY THINGS AROUND. FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOW MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER BUT IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY ARE ‘HEALTHY AND NOT TOXIC’’. YOU MAY HAVE COUNTED ON PEOLPLE TO BE THERE FOR YOU WHO NEVER ‘SHOWED UP’ AS THE FRIEND YOU HAD THOUGHT THEY WOULD BE..SOUNDS LIKE A G0OD TIME TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS!

Being able to “value yourself” is so essential as how you feel about yourself will effect your relationships and every area of your life. You may have grown up in a home where positive words, and encouragement, affection, were rarely or never part of your life and now you struggle with having a loving and healthy connection with yourself and others

You have a choice in all of this rather than continuing to go forward on "automatic" you can choose to become more invested in becoming more self aware and less unconscious so that this negative cycle can start to be repaired and your life restored!

You may have been trained since childhood to be a people pleaser and by now you are noticing the effects of your not being able to authentically show up in relationships and the frustration that goes with that experience.

Narcissists live and love to have power over you. Have you noticed that your decisions and your thoughts and feelings:your emotional perspective do not have any value or worth in their world which is based on control and manipulation.

If you are longing to have a truly intimate connection with another person then there are three important areas that are vital to form the foundation . If these areas are avoided then the door to disconnection rather than intimacy will be opened and can have a foothold in your relationship as the relationship will be continually on rocky ground..

Before any drug addict or alcoholic can begin recovery it is essential that there is a period of detoxing from the toxic effects of the substances  they have been using.  These substances were an attempt to not feel pain but actually caused even more pain and problems. 

Trust Is To Be Earned. You may be in a relationship now where once again you feel extremely alone and unloved and are wondering how you got back to this familiar and painful place once again.

If you entering into a relationship and you are bringing in unresolved issues such as: "the termite of self loathing" this will effect the quality of your communication as well as block a true and healthy connection. Nothing new can be built while "termites" are in the house.