When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.
You may have broken ties or moved far away, but the ache of that parental bond still lives inside. There’s a way to heal what they could never give — by discovering who you truly are, beneath the trauma.
.When your emotional needs were overlooked as a child, you may have learned to doubt yourself, avoid mistakes at all costs, or freeze in fear of disapproval. This kind of emotional neglect often shows up later in life as procrastination, perfectionism, and self-criticism. In this post, I explore how emotional neglect and procrastination are connected — and how healing begins when you learn to honor your feelings and trust yourself again.
When your emotional needs were ignored or dismissed growing up, you may find yourself feeling “too much” in relationships — always longing for reassurance and connection. In this post, I explore how childhood neglect can lead to emotional neediness in adulthood, and how therapy can help you heal and feel secure in yourself and your relationships.
The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.
Before we can speak the truth in love to another we must first master being able to speak the truth in love to ourselves. And yes that means for us to be accountable rather than explain or excuse our part. and to develop the self-awareness that will make this possible.. The words we speak and how we speak to ourselves and others are seeds and to have a healthy harvest we must plant healthy loving truthful seeds.
The wounds of childhood sexual abuse are often buried deep — carried in silence, shame, and the body’s memory. Healing may feel impossible, especially when trust has been shattered early in life. In this post, I speak to the brave, sacred work of healing these invisible wounds and how in-person therapy can help you begin again — gently, safely, and with compassion.
Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.
f you grew up feeling unseen, dismissed, or emotionally neglected, it can quietly shape how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve. You may look successful on the outside — but deep down, you question your worth, your lovability, and whether your needs matter.
This blog is for the part of you that’s tired of pretending and ready to heal.
There are so many benefits when we open our hearts to loving and caring for a pet. This is especially true if you are a trauma survivor and have been wounded by people you trusted..One of the deepest wounds for trauma survivors is that your capacity to trust has been ruptured and now it is difficult and painful to trust people and difficult to trust yourself.. Opening your heart and your home to a new “family member with 4 legs” can be a big part of the healing process! You rescue and you will be rescued!
Conflicts are part of every relationship. The problem is that you may have never experienced or learned how to resolve conflict in a “healthy connected” way. You may put up a wall of stone or your style maybe is to avoid and not address conflicts and are now noticing that the conflicts we do not address but avoid can run our lives.It is not too late to learn the 3 essential elements of resolving conflict! Know that places where you are not healed go with you in yuor relationships!
You may be noticing that you have developed a pattern of “avoiding” conflict and probably by now you are also noticing that the conflict that we avoid “runs” our lives. Depression is highly correlated to patterns of “avoidance” and these patterns when repeated can become extremely “rigid”. Rigidity or lack of flexibility also fuels depression.. You may have been raised in a family where you never saw or experienced how to resolve and address conflict and stay connected through the process with yourself and others.. In an attempt to survive in a chaotic family you began to shut down and avoid in an effort to protect yourself as you were not “safe” to be “you”.
Well you probably know by now that the way your parents raised you has effected who you are now and your parenting style also reflects this. The wonderful thing is no matter how wonderful or difficult your childhood was you can bring to the table your unique style as well as understanding what your child truly needs and wants from you in order for you to nurture with wisdom and heart. There are 3 essential elements of healthy parenting that will greatly bless both you and your child.
Shame fuels depression just like gasoline can fuel a fire. Depression is an ongoing battle in the mind,body and spirit that can feel overwhelming.You may feel like giving up at times as you struggle to find a light in the darkness and everything becomes such an effort in your daily life. The lyng voice of the demon of the spirit shame tells you that “you are not good enough” and that “everything is your fault” and that you have not made mistakes but that “you are a mistake”. It is difficult to have energy for life when you are struggling with this battle. and this very likely began in your childhood and now it is time for you to address the effects of your wounds so you can begin to heal as depression and shame do not have to be a life sentence You can come out of the prison you have been living in
Trauma often lives in your body and nervous system, showing up as intense reactions to seemingly small moments. These triggers can leave you feeling confused, overwhelmed, or ashamed of your response. In this post, I share how to begin recognizing your trauma triggers, why they happen, and how therapy can help you respond with more compassion and calm.
