When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.
You may have broken ties or moved far away, but the ache of that parental bond still lives inside. There’s a way to heal what they could never give — by discovering who you truly are, beneath the trauma.
.When your emotional needs were overlooked as a child, you may have learned to doubt yourself, avoid mistakes at all costs, or freeze in fear of disapproval. This kind of emotional neglect often shows up later in life as procrastination, perfectionism, and self-criticism. In this post, I explore how emotional neglect and procrastination are connected — and how healing begins when you learn to honor your feelings and trust yourself again.
When your emotional needs were ignored or dismissed growing up, you may find yourself feeling “too much” in relationships — always longing for reassurance and connection. In this post, I explore how childhood neglect can lead to emotional neediness in adulthood, and how therapy can help you heal and feel secure in yourself and your relationships.
The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.
Do you feel and believe that you are :unlovable”? Do you fear rejection and abandonment and have built a wall around your heart in an attempt to “protect yourself”? Do you have a history of unstable relationships? Do you have a pattern of shutting down and avoiding what is going on inside of you? Do you have difficulty addressing conflict and either stuff your feelings or explode? Do your trust and self esteem issues stem from childhood trauma?
Trauma often lives in your body and nervous system, showing up as intense reactions to seemingly small moments. These triggers can leave you feeling confused, overwhelmed, or ashamed of your response. In this post, I share how to begin recognizing your trauma triggers, why they happen, and how therapy can help you respond with more compassion and calm.
Are you starting to see and no longer deny and avoid the effects of your unhealed wounds in your relationship with yourself and those close to you? Have you been experiencing pain in your body as your memories and emotions are more difficult now for you to stuff and avoid your pain? Are you feeling overwhelmed and “stuck” by your woundedness and having difficulty moving forward? Are you starting to understand how essential it is for you to address your pain and no longer neglect yourself so that you can begin to heal?
Do you feel that you are walking on eggs in relationships? Are you fearful of abandonment? Constantly trying to please others or read their unspoken messages? Are you afraid to assert yourself? Do you base your self esteem on how others see you or how you perceive that they see you? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits and often are intruded on by others? Do you fear disappointing people? Were you raised in a family where your boundaries were consistently violated and your voice was shut down? Do you feel helpless at times and filled with guilt and shame? All of the above can be effects of enmeshment and are blocks to forming healthy “fully alive relationships” ..but there is help, hope and healing on the way!
Are you continually finding yourself struggling with trust issues? Do you find it difficult to know who you can trust and who is not trustworthy? Do you often make choices of letting people in that hurt you and cause you to doubt yourself rather then having healthy relationships with people that support you and encourage as well as challenge you to grow? Do you struggle with trusting yourself and your own impressions and perceptions? Do you expect to be rejected and betrayed rather than honored and loved?
Do you find it difficult to assert yourself as you fear that you will be misunderstood or rejected? Do you fear conflict and do whatever you can to avoid having to address issues? Do you believe that “your voice” will not have any influence so why bother to speak? Do you have difficulties setting boundaries and limits in relationships as you fear how others will react?
Pandemic has been so stressful for so many of us and for others it has been traumatic. You may already have had a history of trauma as a child or adult and this difficult stressful time has been a “reinjury” ” Now that there is more movement forward in this pandemic situation you may have become even more aware of how this has effected you both inside and out as well as you may be longing to begin another level of moving forward with HOPE and to gain understanding of how your history of trauma has effected you and that you need to take time to HEAL but are not sure how to go about that.
ARE YOU CONTINUALLY EXPECTING THE WORST OUTCOME AND CATASTROPHIZING AS YOU APPROACH SITUATIONS? WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?H OW YOU VIEW YOURSELF? IS THE GLUE IN YOUR ATTEMPT TO CONNECT WITH OTHERS THAT YOU BOTH MARINATE IN COMPLAINTS AND WORRIES ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND LACK INNER PEACE AND BELIEVE YOU ARE A VICTIM WITH LITTLE HOPE OR BELIEF OF CHANGE? ARE YOU FEELING EXHAUSTED AND DEPLETED PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AS DEPRESSION TAKES HOLD OF YOU?
THIS CERTAINLY HAS BEEN A CHALLENGING TIME FOR EVERYONE AS THE PANDEMIC HAS CHANGED SO MANY THINGS AROUND. FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOW MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER BUT IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY ARE ‘HEALTHY AND NOT TOXIC’’. YOU MAY HAVE COUNTED ON PEOLPLE TO BE THERE FOR YOU WHO NEVER ‘SHOWED UP’ AS THE FRIEND YOU HAD THOUGHT THEY WOULD BE..SOUNDS LIKE A G0OD TIME TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS!
A father’s love is meant to protect, affirm, and steady a daughter’s heart. But when that relationship is marked by criticism, control, absence, or emotional volatility, the wound can run deep. As a grown woman, you may find yourself questioning your worth, struggling to trust others, or working relentlessly to prove you’re enough — all while carrying an ache you can’t quite name. These wounds don’t just fade with time; they show up in relationships, self-talk, and the quiet moments when you feel most alone. Healing begins when you stop minimizing your pain and begin honoring the truth of your story — and your right to move beyond it.
