Relationship Therapy

Healing Your Relationship From The Inside-Out

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Whether you’re struggling with conflict, feeling distant from your partner, repeating old patterns, or longing for deeper connection, you don’t have to figure it out alone. At Ronee Miller Counseling in Tribeca, NYC, you will begin to experience what it is like to be “seen, heard, and felt.” Relationships are where we are most deeply shaped, and where we often feel the most vulnerable. When conflict, distance, or old wounds arise, it can leave you feeling unseen, unheard, or questioning your worth. In our work together, I offer a safe and steady space to slow down, to listen for the deeper longings beneath the struggle, and to honor the parts of you that have been protecting your heart for so long.

With warmth, compassion, and curiosity, I help you reconnect to the core of who you are—and to the possibility of relationships that feel more alive, authentic, and nourishing. offer in-person therapy to help you navigate your relationships with more honesty, courage, and love — starting with your relationship to yourself. Call me at 📞 (212) 349-6544 or visit my website to begin creating the connection you’ve been longing for.

Are you in a new relationship and experiencing many familiar relationship issues and fearful of another painful breakup? Or are you in a relationship for many years and you’re not as intimate or emotionally connected to your spouse or partner as you’d like?

Whether your relationship issues unfolded recently or have been causing problems for years, (gone unaddressed in a fruitful way) you are both very likely experiencing the painful effects of this attachment wound pattern. and at times feeling frustrated, anxious , discouraged, sad and angry….and feel just “stuck” and are seeing and feeling the signs that it is time to get help!!

What Therapy Is Like With Me

Therapy with me is a place where you can bring your whole self, even the parts you’ve been hiding in your relationships out of fear, shame, or habit. In my quiet, private, and pet-friendly home office in Tribeca, NYC, you’ll find a safe space to untangle the patterns that keep you feeling stuck and to practice being real, vulnerable, and fully alive. Together, we’ll uncover what’s been getting in the way of intimacy — whether that’s old wounds, unspoken needs, or self-doubt — and gently build new ways of relating that feel authentic to who you are.

Healing Conflict and Rebuilding Trust

Conflict in relationships can feel exhausting, leaving behind hurt, distance, and disconnection. Many couples find themselves stuck in repeating arguments, miscommunication, or long silences that make it hard to feel safe with one another. Even when there is love, these patterns can create frustration and a sense of hopelessness.

In relationship therapy, we slow down the cycle so each person’s deeper needs and feelings can be understood. Beneath the conflict, there is often a longing—to be valued, heard, and cared for. By creating space to recognize and express those longings, new patterns of communication can emerge. Over time, trust begins to rebuild, defenses soften, and partners can reconnect on a more genuine level.

In my Tribeca, NYC practice, I’ve helped many individuals and couples repair long-standing relationship wounds. Whether you are working through broken trust, constant conflict, or the quiet distance that comes from feeling unseen, therapy offers a safe place to begin again. Healing relationships is possible—and trust can be restored with warmth, patience, and care.

Deepening Intimacy

Intimacy is more than closeness—it is the experience of being truly seen and accepted in your relationship. For many people, intimacy issues arise when vulnerability feels risky. You may long for connection, yet find yourself pulling away, guarded by fears of rejection or past experiences of not being met with love. These patterns often show up in couples counseling, where partners are trying to understand why closeness feels difficult to sustain.

Therapy provides space to gently explore the parts of you that want closeness alongside the parts that protect you from being hurt. As these protective patterns are understood with compassion, emotional safety grows. From that place, it becomes easier to share yourself openly, listen deeply, and experience relationships that feel more alive, authentic, and nourishing.

In my work with clients here in Tribeca, NYC, I’ve seen how powerful it can be when intimacy shifts from feeling fragile or distant to becoming a reliable source of strength and connection. Relationship therapy can help you break old cycles and create the closeness you’ve been longing for.

Relationships Where We Feel Safe And Connected Are Relationships That Heal

All relationships will have “ruptures” at times. Ruptures are “disruptions” The problem is not so much about the “rupture” but the real problem is when the “rupture” is not repaired. When we learn to address “ruptures” and “repair” ruptures rather than deny and avoid the ruptures then our connection with each other becomes more bonded and secure as our relationship “terrain” is a “safe” one.

If you or your partner, or both of you have a history of trauma(abuse, neglect, abandonment) those deep and unhealed wounds will be reflected in your relationships. Growing up in a family where your boundaries were not respected, healthy communication did not take place, and affection was absent minimal. That dysfunctional family system was a setup and fuel for having: trust and intimacy: issues.

You may not have received nurturance, emotional attunement, or encouragement when you were growing up and now have difficulty giving and receiving in a connected present way.. If you have grown up in a family where addiction created a chaotic unsafe space where you felt completely alone then this history of relational trauma has led to deep attachment wounds and issues .. .

You may be in a codependent relationship where one partner “overfunctions,” controls, or makes demands while the other takes a backseat and “underfunctions” Conflict is avoided instead of being addressed, and the relationship gets stuck in a holding pattern of fear and anxiety, anger, people pleasing, enabling that stifles growth and change. No matter which role you’ve each taken: this pattern would need to be healed from the inside out so that two healthy adults can develop real intimacy.

You may think you’re already doing everything you can to improve your situation. But until you each do the important inner work you can never fully understand your relationship struggles. Relationship therapy can help you to recognize and address “ruptures” and to “repair” ruptures so that connection and intimacy and “safeness” become foundational in your relationship. . By working with a highly experienced caring and skilled NYC relationship therapist, you can become more self-aware, vulnerable, as well as accountable to yourself and to each other so that a strong bond of safety and trust is formed.. 

Relationship Therapy Can Provide Self-Awareness And Healing

Relationship therapy can help you both recognize unhealed wounds and how they effect your relationships. We’ll start by talking about what issues have been coming up between you and your spouse or partner that you need help with as well as what is going “right” in your relationship... As I see, hear and listen and feel how you relate to each other I can help you both recognize, as well as understand the “roots” of relationship patterns and communication that have become stumbling blocks so you both can experience a loving and healthy fully alive relationship where you both feel safe.

Through therapy, you can learn how to replace unhealthy , untrue beliefs with healthier ones. If you often think to yourself, “I am not enough”” or “I am always going to feel like this”, we’ll explore and identify the roots of the lies you have told yourself and believed to be true. This can help you each to become more aware of “triggers” that induce fear, guilt, shame. anger and self-esteem issues

These “triggers” can contribute to feelings of helplessness and powerlessness frustration and anger.. as well as avoidance and denial of conflicts. In time, you both can become more able to identify your own ”triggers” as well as your partners and become more self aware as well as more attuned to each other and more connected rather than disconnected.Healing can only take place when we are calm.

I will also help you to set healthy boundaries and limits that will protect each of you from feeling and being intruded upon by each other. At first, setting boundaries may seem to be difficult especially if you’re used to people-pleasing and apologizing all the time and abdicated to being intruded on.

However, what feels familiar isn’t necessarily good or healthy for you. I will help you to explore and identify which areas in your relationship are non-negotiable—a line in the sand. As you learn to set limits around what you define as acceptable or not acceptable in your relationship you will each be less likely to experience toxicity or emotional reinjury. Boundaries are there to protect us and they are essential in a healthy relationship.

The experience of being seen, heard, and felt is essential for healing. . Yes, relationships are “triggers” and your relationship provides an amazing opportunity for growth and change. Change can happen without growth but growth cannot happen without change!

When starting relationship therapy, you may not have the words to communicate (or the ability to understand) how you feel. and In time, you can both become able to experience your emotions and the sensations you feel in your body.

As you consider relationship therapy, you may think. . . 

I’m not sure my relationship problems have anything to do with my past.

.How the Past Shapes the Present

The ways we show up in relationships are often deeply connected to the attachments we formed early in life. The way love was—or wasn’t—mirrored back to us influences our sense of safety, trust, and closeness. If you grew up feeling unseen, dismissed, or too much, those experiences can linger, shaping how you connect now.

In our work together, we’ll approach these patterns not as flaws, but as protective strategies that once made sense. By slowing down and gently listening to the parts of you that long for closeness, as well as the parts that fear it, space opens for something new. Over time, the old cycles lose their hold, and you can begin to experience relationships that feel more secure, mutual, and deeply fulfilling.

I don’t like the idea of setting boundaries because I don’t want to “rock the boat.”

It is so essential to learn to set limits and boundaries in our relationships. Otherwise, the conflicts we avoid will run our lives. Over the years, I’ve seen many clients begin to learn how to communicate effectively, set boundaries and limits, and assert themselves. One of my clients was initially so afraid of conflict that she let her partner control everything about her life. Through therapy, she learned to assert herself and see what an influence she actually has. Even if your partner is initially resistant to your new boundaries, you’ll be growing in ways that will help your relationships in the long run.

I’m not sure if I should keep working on my relationship or move on.

It can be hard to tell where relationship problems are coming from. In some areas, you may be unconsciously projecting your own issues onto your partner. Other times, you may minimize your partner’s shortcomings. When you start to look inside, you’ll be more able to see and understand what the dynamics of your relationship are actually about on a deeper emotional level. As you set healthier boundaries for yourself, your relationship’s potential (or lack thereof) will be more apparent. Whatever decision you come to regarding your current partner, you’ll be able to make it with greater confidence and clarity.

Take Responsibility For Your Own Happiness

Counting on other people to make you happy and whole is like believing that crumbs make a cake. You can set a higher bar for yourself and your relationships when you learn how to honor and value yourself, and your relationship choices will reflect this from you!

An Invitation to Begin

You deserve relationships where you can be fully yourself and fully loved.

I invite you to come work with me — in person, here at Ronee Miller Counseling in Tribeca, NYC — and take the first step toward healing the way you connect with others and with yourself. Call me at 📞 (212) 349-6544 or click here to visit my website. Together we can begin creating the kinds of relationships your heart has always known are possible.

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