Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
SIGNS YOU ARE DISCONNECTED FROM YOURSELF

When we do not feel safe as children, we adapt to survive, however, we become disconnected with our authentic self. As adults, this affects our relationship with ourselves and with others. We can become connected with our bodies and our emotions as we begin to seek healing and do not have to stay stuck in the effects of relationship trauma of the past. Important to notice signs of disconnection from yourself.

SIGNS YOU ARE DISCONNECTED FROM YOURSELF
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
FREEDOM FROM PARENTAL TRAUMA BOND

You may have broken ties or moved far away, but the ache of that parental bond still lives inside. There’s a way to heal what they could never give — by discovering who you truly are, beneath the trauma.

FREEDOM FROM PARENTAL TRAUMA BOND
Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND PROCRASTINATION

When we are emotionally neglected as children our nervous system does the best it can to go into survival mode in an atttempt to protect us ... Since we are completely dependent and vulnerable and unable to “fight or flee” so we go into“freeze” response where we are numb and emotionally shut down in an attempt to not feel our fear and our pain. When no one hears or listens to our “cry” we lose hope as our emotional needs are not noticed or given attention and we feel like we do not exist..Over time our “little child” part gets more frozen and “stuck” and has difficulty moving forward and begins to internalize the emotional neglect and we as adults then begin to neglect ourselves emotionally and due to lack of hope and feelings of helplessness develop a pattern of procrastination and the root is “childhood emotional neglect”.

EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND PROCRASTINATION
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
NEGLECT AND EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS

When we were the most vulnerable and dependent and “emotionally needy(”as we all have been as children )it can feel like a cry deep in our soul when no one hears or seems to care about us. Our mind, will and emotions are what define our soul. For many of us who have been “ traumatically wounded” in childhood: the message we received was that we will not have our emotional reality nurtured or have anyone who can help us to process our emotions in a” healthy” way. You may be becoming more and more aware and of the consequences that are affecting your self-esteem and your relationships as the“little boy or girl part” got stuck in a pattern of “emotional neediness” that needs to be healed so you can move on with hope and start to. understand what is going on inside of you emotionally physically: and spiritually. You may have stuffed your emotions and are now becoming more aware of the consequences related to your childhood trauma.

NEGLECT AND EMOTIONAL NEEDINESS
Bilingual Relationship Therapy, Bilingual Trauma Therapy
Ronee Miller
HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
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FEAR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

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FEAR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

Healing can only take place when we are calm. Fearful thoughts block the healing process and nurture feelings of anxiety as you most likely can notice by now.. It is like eating toxic food that cannot nourish you in any way but actually hurts you and makes you feel sick.. What you think and what you say make a great difference to your overall mental health and state of mind. So what are you feasting these on days is my question to you: is it gloom and doom, toxic relationships, catastrophizing, making mountains out of molehills, bad news reports online and on TV? Are you murmuring and complaining and wondering why you feel so alone and disconnected from yourself and others? Help and hope are on the way so do not give up!

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HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

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HOW TO HEAL AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE

The way that we learn to connect with others in our relationships is called “attachment style” .Our parents and caregivers play a crucial role i the style of “attachment'‘ we develop.. When as children those adults who are closest are unable to nurture us and be responsive to our needs then in order to survive we often “shut down” emotionally. An“avoidant attachment style” develops as a survival response to fear,, anxiety and feelings of rejection and abandonment.as there is a lack of a secure connection and trust.

STOP BEING A DOORMAT

STOP BEING A DOORMAT

Doormats are exploited and dumped on. Doormats are used and often abused. Doormats do not have a voice. Before you can stop being a doormat it is essential that you actually begin to identify and see what the qualities of a doormat are. You may have been well-trained since early childhood to stuff your feelings and your voice and to be a “people pleaser”. and now you feeling depleted and believe the lie that you are powerless.but you are not!!

SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE

SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE

Before we can speak the truth in love to another we must first master being able to speak the truth in love to ourselves. And yes that means for us to be accountable rather than explain or excuse our part. and to develop the self-awareness that will make this possible.. The words we speak and how we speak to ourselves and others are seeds and to have a healthy harvest we must plant healthy loving truthful seeds.

HEALING FROM CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

HEALING FROM CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, you may feel extremely alone in your pain. Have you been depressed and anxious and at times feel impatient with yourself? Have you walked with this ‘secret” most of your life and sometimes question your own reality and memories? Are you experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as you are “triggered” and often feel overwhelmed? Are you starting to see that you need “healing “ and “care” in order not to continue to” avoid and neglect yourself”?

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

ADULT WOUNDS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

Childhood sexual abuse creates a deep wound in the soul. As a child you are vulnerable and dependent on adults that are supposed to be there to love and protect you but have failed you. Most childhood sexual abuse happens in families and the perpetrator is often someone you trusted and yet they were not worthy of your trust. And though there were many signs when you were being abused that “something was wrong” no one even noticed. Not being noticed caused even more confusion and pain about your own value as no one heard your “cry” but that “cry” is still inside although muffled over time.

KNOWING YOUR VALUE

KNOWING YOUR VALUE

What does it mean to “honor” yoursel.f? It does not mean to be self absorbed or critical

But to courageously get to know who you are and develop a deep respect and

compassion for yourself:as well as a “voice” rather than stuffing what really matters

to you. As a trauma survivor you have been “dishonored” and now is time to

take back what was stolen and begin the healing process!

THE HEALING POWER OF PETS

THE HEALING POWER OF PETS

There are so many benefits when we open our hearts to loving and caring for a pet. This is especially true if you are a trauma survivor and have been wounded by people you trusted..One of the deepest wounds for trauma survivors is that your capacity to trust has been ruptured and now it is difficult and painful to trust people and difficult to trust yourself.. Opening your heart and your home to a new “family member with 4 legs” can be a big part of the healing process! You rescue and you will be rescued!

FACING CONFLICTS WITHOUT ANXIETY

FACING CONFLICTS WITHOUT ANXIETY

Conflicts are part of every relationship. The problem is that you may have never experienced or learned how to resolve conflict in a “healthy connected” way. You may put up a wall of stone or your style maybe is to avoid and not address conflicts and are now noticing that the conflicts we do not address but avoid can run our lives.It is not too late to learn the 3 essential elements of resolving conflict! Know that places where you are not healed go with you in yuor relationships!