RED FLAGS OF LACK OF EMPATHY
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Why Empathy Matters in Relationship
Empathy is the bridge that allows us to feel seen, heard, and emotionally safe. When that bridge is missing—whether due to childhood experiences, relational trauma, or chronic misattunement—we begin to doubt our feelings, silence our needs, or emotionally shut down.
At Ronee Miller Counseling in Tribeca, we gently explore where empathy was lacking in your life and how that shaped your relationship with yourself and others. You’ll begin to experience a different kind of connection—one where your emotions are welcomed, not dismissed.
Call 📞 (212) 349-6544 or click here to begin restoring true connection.
What is essential for you to understand is that if you were raised by narcissistic parents or parent, then you were “groomed” in a sense to have little expectation or hope that you could have your own emotional reality and feel understood.
Disconnected relationships have become so familiar to you and have become normalized. What is clear is that if you choose narcissistic partners then you are consistently being “reinjured”
. As you begin to become more conscious of this pattern and seek therapy for yourself: you can begin to heal the wounds of the past. We cannot heal the wounds of the past in the past but only in the present, So as you stretch and change and are transformed from the inside out you will no longer attract or be attracted to people who are unable to truly “show up” as you will become a person who is now able to truly “show up” for yourself and in relationships
.( See:” How To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse”)
HOW LACK OF EMPATHY AND DISCONNECTION HURT
. (When Your Emotional Reality Is Not Nurtured or Acknowledged)
Over time this becomes more and more painful as it is a “reinjury” from your childhood trauma.It becomes more difficult for you to have and to share your own thoughts, and feelings, your own voice without judging and condemning yourself or internalizing your anger. You are not “safe” to be the “you” who “you” were meant to be. You may become depressed and/or addicted in a relationship where there is” trauma bonding” as the glue rather than connection, safety, truth, and growth.
(See:”How Childhood Trauma Effects Adult Relationships”)
HOW LACK OF EMPATHY FUELS “AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT” STYLE
We all need to have “secure attachment” especially when we are little and helpless but many of us have not experienced that as children when were most vulnerable and completely dependent. Many of us were abused, neglected and shamed for our “beingness” and related to as “human doings”. This fuels disconnection from self and others as empathy is “caught” not “taught”.If the message you received as a child was that you were not safe to be “you” then that little insecure child part of you needs healing or the scenario gets repeated as an adult. (See: Signs You Are Neglecting You)We learn to ‘avoid’ as a result of experiencing that relationships “hurt” and not being able to feel “safe” with others as relationships have become a source of pain instead of nurturance and safety. Lack of empathy fuels disconnection and the disconnection from self and others fuels “avoidant” rather than “secure” attachment.(See:”How To Heal Avoidant Attachment”)
THE HEALING POWER OF SELF-COMPASSION
NYC Well the good news is it is not too late to develop ‘self- compassion” and to have a working internal radar to run from those who are narcissistic, self-focused, and lack “self-awareness and accountability and vulnerability”. Yes it is a process as healing is a process and remember you are a “work in progress” and you can learn to “reparent” yourself (See: Benefits Of Reparenting Yourself) and become a loving friend to yourself who values who you are from the inside-out!
💬 What Therapy With Me Is Like
In our sessions, you’ll enter a space where your inner world is met with deep presence and care. We’ll explore the painful effects of emotional neglect or invalidation—not to blame the past, but to honor what you’ve carried and begin healing.
As we build trust, you’ll come to feel more in touch with your own needs and feelings—and more equipped to connect authentically with others. Therapy with me is a collaborative, soulful process where even long-standing disconnection can begin to shift.
Call 📞 (212) 349-6544 or visit my website to schedule your first sessi
💬 Moving Toward Empathic Connection
Healing begins when you’re met with empathy where it was once missing. You don't have to keep questioning your emotions or minimizing your pain to preserve a relationship. You were meant for more.
If you're ready to experience empathy that heals and relationships that nurture, I invite you to take the first step. At Ronee Miller Counseling, I offer in-person therapy in Tribeca, NYC for those seeking true connection.
Call 📞 (212) 349-6544 or click here to reach out.